Havdalah is the Jewish ceremony held at the end of Shabbat and all other Jewish holidays. It’s an immersive service that engages all 5 senses: touch, taste, sight, sound, smell. It serves as the transition from the holiday to daily life, enabling us to keep holy time holy.
Read on to learn all about Havdalah, including why we practice it, what it involves, and the meanings behind its various practices.
What is Havdalah?
Havdalah is the final religious ceremony of any Jewish holiday. The word Havdalah is Hebrew for “separation,” signifying the separation between holy time and everyday life. The holiday engages all senses: taste, touch, smell, sound, and sight.
For many, Havdalah is a bittersweet ceremony that’s closely tied to a strong sense of community. Shabbat and other Jewish holidays are a special time to gather with friends and family and celebrate. The transition back into everyday life may mean taking time and attention away from your Jewish community. It’s common to gather in a circle, throw your arms around your neighbors, and break out in song as the ceremony begins.
When Do We Do Havdalah?
For most Jewish people, Havdalah is most commonly associated with Shabbat. We hold the service weekly on Saturday night as Shabbat ends. But Havdalah isn’t just for Shabbat; it’s for every Jewish holiday. No matter the occasion, Havdalah marks the transition back into daily life.
You’ll know it’s time for Havdalah when three stars are visible in the night sky, or use a Havdalah calculator to determine the right time to hold the ceremony. According to the Rabbis, while we can’t recite Havdalah earlier, we can always recite it later.
Why Do We Do Havdalah?
Just as we mark the beginning of Shabbat and other Jewish holidays with the Kiddush, we mark the end with Havdalah. The Torah teaches us to, “Remember the Sabbath day and sanctify it.” Practicing Havdalah helps us to do so. This immersive holiday provides a physical and spiritual experience that offers a transition out of a holy and spiritual time and back into daily life. In celebrating the end of a holiday just as we do the beginning, we book-end holy time and therefore keep it special.
Components of the Havdalah Ceremony
The Havdalah ceremony interacts with all 5 senses: touch, taste, sound, sight, and smell. Its components include:
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Touch (Joining of arms): Most congregations begin the Havdalah ceremony by joining hands or linking arms together. This is a physical reminder of the community you celebrate with.
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Taste (Wine or grape juice): As with most Jewish ceremonies, we drink wine or grape juice during Havdalah. Wine in Judaism is connected to joy, sanctification, and celebration.
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Sound (Prayer): The tune to which Havdalah prayers are sung perfectly replicates the bittersweetness of the holiday. They are both hopeful and sorrowful.
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Sight (Havdalah Candle): To do Havdalah, you need a special kind of candle that isn’t utilized for any other occasion. This braided candle features multiple wicks, creating a large, captivating flame.
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Smell (Spice Box): Perhaps the most unique element of the Havdalah ceremony, the spice box, known as B’samim, is filled with warming spices like cinnamon, cloves, or nutmeg. The box is passed around for the entire congregation to smell.
Symbolism in Havdalah
Havdalah is a spiritual and experiential ceremony with layers of symbolism. Underlying meanings of the holiday are hidden within many of its key components.
Havdalah Candle
There are a number of different meanings behind Havdalah’s unique, braided candle. They include:
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Unity: The Havdalah candle is actually made of three smaller candles braided together. Their intertwining wicks symbolize the unity of the Jewish people, even as we exit this holy time.
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The first fire: When the Havdalah candle is lit, its fire is much larger than that of a traditional candle. The Rabbis teach that the large Havdalah fire is meant to represent Adam’s discovery of fire after Shabbat ended. When night fell, Adam experienced darkness. Instinctually, he rubbed two rocks together to create the first flame. To remember this, we hold up our hands and look at the reflection of light in our fingernails, just as Adam looked at his.
Spice Box
The spice box is filled with sweet smelling spices and passed around for the congregation to enjoy. It has several meanings, too:
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Shabbat’s sweetness: Shabbat is a sweet and special holiday, and the smell of the spices is meant to remind us of that.
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The Shabbat soul: It’s taught that, on Shabbat, each person gains an extra soul known as the Shabbat soul. At the end of Shabbat, the spices provide an extra bit of sweetness to the Shabbat soul, meant to comfort as it departs us for the week.
Extinguishing of the Havdalah Candle
Unlike other holiday candles, which are allowed to burn until they go out, the Havdalah candle is intentionally extinguished at the end of the ceremony. As the wine is passed around for everyone to sip, some inevitably spills from the cup onto its saucer. At the end of the Havdalah ceremony, the Havdalah candle is extinguished in this spilled wine. As the flames die, a sizzle can be heard. Some believe that the louder the sizzle, the better the week ahead.
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Havdalah is a meaningful way to commemorate the end of every Jewish holiday. This immersive ceremony serves as a gentle transition from the holy holiday time back into daily life.
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